“婦女援助組織”（WAO）新聞聲明 24-06-2014 https://twitter.com/ChachaSiu/status/492151340169064448 身為母親，須付出多大的努力才能達成與孩子一起生活的心願？ 在馬來西亞，2個孩子的媽媽──蒂巴，以及更多與她相同處境的婦女，必須克服重重障礙，以求和自己的孩子在一起生活。 而如今，蒂巴面對的問題尚未解決，她正面臨政府擺出的更多難關。 我們的社會制度已經使蒂巴遭受不公正的對待。她的前夫在她不知情之下，竟被允許把2個孩子帶去改教。伊斯蘭法庭認為，無需對蒂巴進行審訊，甚至未聆聽蒂巴的證詞，即發出撫養權予蒂巴的前夫。 事實上，蒂巴的前夫被指行為粗爆，蒂巴並已就此向警察報案超過25次，但顯然此事並未受到重視。 蒂巴相信法庭將做出公正的判決。在她與前夫當年辦理結婚手續的民事法庭上，法官在聆聽蒂巴與她前夫的證詞後，把撫養權判給了蒂巴，其前夫則獲得探視權。 惟2天後，蒂巴的前夫強行帶走6歲的兒子。他申請暫緩執行撫養權庭令，不過他的申請同時遭高庭和上訴庭駁回。高庭和上訴庭維持蒂巴獲得撫養權的判決。 雖然如此，警方卻以庭令與伊斯蘭法庭相衝突為理由，而拒絕執行撫養權庭令。 不過，蒂巴並未放棄，她從高庭取得歸還令──指示警察須帶回她的兒子。 時至今日，歸還令沒有被遵守，全國總警長和總檢察長已申請干預法庭程序，中止執行歸還令。 當事情牽涉到孩子時，母親要求享有與父親同等的決定權，又，當婚姻發生問題時，尋求透過莊嚴的婚姻法律來解決問題，算是過分的要求？ 難道，孩子對於他們自己的未來，沒有發言權嗎？…
Today is Valentine’s Day. Facebook, Twitter and Instagram will certainly be filled with posts of people expressing love – photographs of roses, online valentine greetings, couples and singles celebrating the day of romance.
So on Valentine’s Day, we at Women’s Aid Organisation, would like to pay tribute to the women who, if alive today, would want to wish their loved ones Happy Valentine’s Day. They would if they could, but sadly it is impossible as they have fallen victim to domestic violence homicide. Their lives were taken by the very people who they shared wedding vows and promised to love.
So let’s take a minute today to remember those whose life ended because of domestic violence. Just a few days ago, we read of yet another domestic violence homicide whereby a 37-year old woman died in Johor Bahru after she was believed to have been slashed on the neck by her husband after an argument. In January, it was reported that a man in Batu Caves brutally cut his wife’s face with a pocket knife after she defied his order not to visit her mother. Another enraged husband attacked and injured his 25-year old wife with a samurai sword, also for wanting to return to her mother’s home. Last year, at least three domestic violence homicide cases were reported in the media, and undoubtedly more were not reported.
It is fear not love that survivors of domestic violence experience every day. And the most tragic manifestation of domestic violence is murder by an intimate partner. When domestic violence ends in death, it represents the failure of the community to recognise the severity and potential lethality of violence against women.
But domestic violence homicide is predictable and preventable. While we have no available statistics in Malaysia, in the United States almost one-third of female homicide victims reported are killed by an intimate partner. What’s more striking is that there are always warning signs. In 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, the man physically abused the woman before the murder. This is the same in the few cases WAO has handled in Malaysia. We must know the prevalence of domestic violence homicide in Malaysia, and we urge the government to make available such statistics immediately.
We must ask ourselves: did we recognise the warning signs? What actions were taken after the police reports were lodged? What protection was given to the women? Have we done enough to prevent these tragic endings? It is simple – increase legal protection services and homicides will decrease.
This day is more than just Valentine’s Day, but V-Day, a global activist movement to end violence against women and girls. It’s only apt that when people around the world celebrate love, we must also recognise those who fall victim to control and inequality in the name of love. Happy Valentine’s Day.
By Sally Wangsawijaya, Advocacy Officer, Women’s Aid Organisation (WAO)